Guys, the time is 4:31am and I have been sitting behind my laptop indulging in some music therapy trying to prioritise some fresh blogs. I have a lot of ideas and there is plenty to write about but I have chosen to do a random blog on whatever comes to mind. Sometimes my brain works quicker than my fingers and gibberish is created. Tonight (or this morning) are going to be just that. As usual I can’t sleep and it’s almost that time of morning when I hear the poor peoples cars destined for the morning commute to jobs they hate. Jobs where they have no option but to sit in there cubicles and do they’re 9 to 5 shifts of tedious, soul crushing tasks so at the end of the day they can knock off, drive their new cars ,that they are paying off, home to a house they have a mortgage on, to their 2.8 children, children that need school expenses and health care, to a wife that is sick of you You shower or spend time on the toilet as these are two places where you have time to yourself. You go to your home office, in the box you live in, a box that looks like every other box on your street, to pay the utilities, credit card bill, and the latest iPhone you got on finance and wonder to yourself… how did it become like this??!! Have tea, go to bed only to repeat the same game the following morning. Then the weekend comes around and you have the kids basketball game, need to attack those lawns that need mowing, and go out for tea with people you don’t really like… and this is your life. This is what you designed for yourself because that is what society tells you to do. And let’s not forget that messy divorce that is constantly hiding in the shadows ready to take more than half of what you own and have you pay child support to children you only have custody of two nights a week. Ahhh… I couldn’t think of anything worse! You have one life guys. I’m talking mostly to the men here.. If you are a youngster and desire these things just remember the things ‘you’ own end up owning you. It’s not a game you wanna play. As for answers to these dilemmas, I don’t have any. The damage has been done. I have played my cards right.. I think.
Of course this is a generalisation but I’m sure it’s not too far off what most guys go through, or at least some of it. Some guys would enjoy being owned like this because they know no different. This is what your friends and neighbors are doing so this must be normal. This must be the only reality.
Let me speak for myself. Rule number one - NO CHILDREN. This was a choice I made early in life. I can see the alure in having kids but the negatives completely outweigh the positives. I wouldn’t make for good father material - NO MARRIAGE. Where are the benefits for the man? Why would you wanna do this? What is in it for you? Most marriages are created from the whining of the lady in the relationship to pressure you into her trap. I have had plenty of girlfriends over the years but I’ve always made it clear from the get-go the things I don’t want in this life - NO DEBT. Don’t live above your means. Pay cash or at least money you have in the bank.. Don’t borrow from anyone. Be completely in charge of your coin. As soon as you tie the knot she now owns that money too. And when things go south, and statistics suggest they will, this along with most other possessions you own are now not yours alone. They have you where they want you!
These are just my personal philosophies. Everyone is different and there are always exceptions to the above thoughts but the odds aren’t in the guys favor. People have said to me - Don’t you feel like your missing out? Nope. I feel free, and nothing interrupts my freedom, to do what I want, when I want. No middle man (or lady) needed. I’m responsible for me. I don’t believe in needing other people constantly around me. I enjoy my own company but if I wanted some company I know where to find it. I only need a handful of friends anyway. I’m not a misogynist or have anything against women as a rule, most of my friends now and in my past have been ladies. They just know where I stand on my beliefs.
Well so much for the ‘random’ writting session. It kind of morphed into a tirade against having no marriage or kids into my idea of how people (especially men) should look at the bigger picture.